metanoia and transformation.
Today on Facebook, I posted that I might want to consider the unresolved business of my life for Lent. Relationships that are paralyzed - maybe they won't be saved, but they should be resolved. There are things, pretty major ones, that I have just not faced or dealt with head on, that need something. And of course, the secrets. The secrets are bad because they lead directly to lies. God, I hate saying that.
Ruminating on this today has lead me to think about forgiveness. As a culture and a society, we tend to oversimply and complicate forgiveness simultaneously. We either see things as non-negotiable unforgiveables or we do it in a way that does not walk through the valley of reconciliation death. That death walk generally needs to happen.
And forgiveness has as much to do with our ability to forgive ourselves as it does to forgive another.
In any event, I am reminded of some times, few as they are, when real transformational forgiveness happened in my life. I will write about that soon.
The Forgiveness Project. If you are not familiar with it, I would suggest that you have a look around. It is pretty profound - it is to me at any rate. I link to the page about Bud Welch; his daughter was killed in the Oklahoma City bombing and his story has always moved me.
What do you think about forgiveness?